I have seen couples in my practice for many years.  I believe that connecting as a couple is the most rewarding and yet difficult relationship between adults.  It involves communication, trust, sharing, intimacy , compromise and cooperation.    When any of these aspects break down, the resulting hurt and anger further destabilize the relationship. 

Couples come to therapy to rebuild:

Communication skills
Trust in each other
Intimacy - physical and emotional
Cooperation - being on the same page
Compromise - valuing each other’s needs and interests

As a couples’ therapist, I help couples hear each other’s perspective.  I teach communication skills and help couples negotiate conflict.   Couples who have lost their way with each other need to rebuild intimacy and trust.